it’s amazing what a shift in perception can do for a man…for a long time i beleived i was not…what some folks call the marrying kind…unmarriageable me…consequently…all the turmoil and strife in my relationships sprang from that…bad choices…uncomfortable compromises…and now i see that i can be a husband without compromising who i am…i can be in a relationship that is vital and challenging without being toxic…its a wonderful thing…now to apply this to my work…shift…